- RULE ONE: You must luv yourself first. Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which all others are formed. Loving yourself is a prerequisite to creating a successful and authentic union with another.
- RULE TWO: Partnering is a choice. The choice to be in a relationship is up to you. You have the ability to attract your beloved and cause the relationship you desire to happen.
- RULE THREE: Creating luv is a process. Moving from 'I' to 'WE' requires a shift in perspective and energy. Being an authentic couple is an evolution.
- RULE FOUR: Relationships provide opportunities to grow. Your relationship will serve as an unofficial 'life-shop' in which you will learn about yourself and how you can grow on your personal path.
- RULE FIVE: Communication is essential. The open exchange of thoughts and feelings is the life blood of your relationship.
- RULE SIX: Negotiation will be required. There will be times when you and your partner must work through impasses. If you do this consciously and with respect, you will learn to create win-win outcomes.
- RULE SEVEN: Your relationship will be challenged by change. Life will present turns in the road. How you maneuver those twists and turns determines the success of your relationship.
- RULE EIGHT: You must nurture the relationship for it to thrive. Treasure your beloved and your relationship will flourish.
- RULE NINE: Renewal is the key to longitivity. Happily ever after means the ability to keep the relationship fresh and vital.
- RULE TEN: You will forget all this the moment you fall in love. You know all these rules inherently. The challenge is to remember them when you fall under the enchanting spell of love...!!!
Till the next post...stay lovely!
5 comments:
Tough call, but all I've learnt from my previous relationships is that "to trust is a weakness". Call me a cynic on this, but you give another person so much control; over your independance, life, existance, that you tend to lose your own identity. Whether it is a god thing, I don't know!
Another thing I learnt the hard way was the fact that "Never ever compromise on your ethical and moral standards. Not even if they are old-fashioned, "now accepted" in the society. It's your standard, stick to it!
"To trust is a weakness"...won't agree with you on that buddy...oops sowie...Birdie :-P
I mean just look at it from this way- you are trusting the other person not cuz u are weak but you are so strong that you believe that even if the other guy faulted...you will be able to get things right or atleast manage.
I don't see a single activity in my life where another person is involved and I can aviod trust...can you?
Losing your own identity- whether it's good or bad is a matter of debate...we may look at it like- a drop loses its identity when it falls on the ocean. The drop may however, can even say- "Ocean is me"....?
But like I said- debatable!
About 'ehical and moral standards'...well I swear about it too... :)
Love is not a Game, there are no rules....Living by set of rules destroys the surprises, the tiny things, which is what keeps any relationship afresh...otherwise u might get a 'game over' sign soon ;-)
@Roopak- you didn't read till the end of the post-did ya? Rule 10 says what??
and YES- one does get a 'Game Over' sign- more often than wanted!
It was too long for me to read ;)
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