Finally a post on a topic that I have been contemplating on, since about a couple of months now…or may be more! And probably still would continue with that for life. As nothing convincible has come in so far and I see no hope for the future as well. The amount of study, research and talks with people around me; that has gone into this, it is way beyond any of my posts all summed up.
Love is a soul need.
On a broader level- affinity for physical and/ or mental closeness exists in both. Where they primarily differ is the readiness or degree of commitment that they withhold. By commitment one doesn’t necessarily mean putting a ring on a finger. The term is more to do with the level of assurance.
Lust is dreadfully usage based - what you lust for. Whereas love is very subject or person based- who/ what you love. Lust is ‘love for usage’. Let’s say love for money, sex, power, success, etc, is all lust because no further commitment is required and the subject or the person from whom it is derived may change.
Whereas, it’s ironic to say that love exists more in shades of grey than pure black or white. Ironic yet true! You hardly realize when you are in it. You can always bank upon that one person or thing. The name u cry out when you are in pain – because the mere sound of that name gives you ample peace and solace. Love has an element of giving into it more oriented towards the loved ones likes and dislike. While lust is a desire to obtain something. An extreme and illogical desire. We may try to rationalize it but who are we really fooling!
Today, what we see love is not what it is, but in what form it is being marketed to us. You watch a romantic movie, you learn- oh! This is the way one needs to behave, this is what one needs to say or do. You hear a love song and you say-oh! This is the way I am supposed to behave. Or this is the way your partner should behave, or whoever, your relations, your friend etc. Or you read a book and that narrates a scene and it leaves an impact on your mind. An impact that you start picturing your D day to be matching to what you read
It is an attempt to define both terms in order to understand how they are different. Trying to identify that thin line between the two. More often than not we are in a ‘thing’ that we think is love because when we are in there, we feel it that way or maybe we like to believe that it is. But once it gets over and done with and we look back, there are some things that raise some questions; the answers to which are not too pleasant.
Is it...just crying for someone when they are away?
Is it...thinking about them all the time...relating each instance to them?
No matter what you do…you can’t seem to stop imagining..What would they do at this time?
Yes
What’s love?
A kind of attraction for each other and a feeling of caring for the person?
You care.
It’s the most divine of all feelings.
You care for someone other than you- a sort after trait in humans.
But then it is filled with all kinds of other human feelings; likes of possessiveness, attachment and what not- it sometimes gets painful.
But that doesn’t mean that love is to be blamed! It’s just pure. It’s we who could not make up to it.
Some interesting quotes that somehow impress me and make me think and believe in it!
Don’t rush in luv for it never runs out. Let luv be the one to knock at your door, so by the time you start to fall, you know that your feeling is for sure.
When you love someone, it's nothing. When someone loves you, it's something. When you luv someone & they luv you back, it's everything.
Love isn't a decision, it's a feeling. If we could decide who to love, then, life would be much simpler, but then less magical.
Never waste an opportunity 2 say 'I love U' to someone u really like, coz it is not everyday u'll meet the person who has the magic to let u fall in love.
'I Trust You' is a better compliment than 'I Love You' because you may not always trust the person you love but you can always love the person you trust.
To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.
The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
Love is just a word until you find someone to give it a definition.
With a zillion love songs (from ‘what’s Love got to do with it’ to ‘Nothing’s gonna change my love for you’), movies (from ‘Love aajkal’ to ‘The Ugly Truth’), books, researches, experiences, instances, heartbreaks, greeting cards, pictures and what nots, I still stand where I started from. All I could maximum infer is that- ‘L’ove and ‘L’ust both have a same beginning but it’s the ending that marks a difference (yeah- literal and figurative).
